im home schooled and its depresssing please help?

Question

ok ive been homeschooled my whole life.there are allot of things that are depressing for me...ill name them...
i dont have any friends
i have to deal with the pressure of my mom watching every thing i do,every grade i get,every time i get up to sharpen a pencil.
i need a way to get it to her head that i am bored with homeschooling.
please help me.she thinks that public school is not "safe".sometimes it
gets to the point to where i am deformed for 2 minouts because of me sitting in one seat for 5-6 hours without changing a class/walking to a different class like publicschoolers do please give me some tips to help me tell her without YELLING it to her.i need some excuses to have atleast one day off.please this Homeschool **** is tortchure!!please

Answer 1

well, first let me tell you, i have been in public school for 8 years, so i know what im talking about when i say: it sucks. so bad. so as for you issues though:



1. you have no friends- do some sports or something. find out what it is your interested in and go do it. you will find tons of friends (as long as you're some what out going and talk to ppl) soon enough.



2. the pressure of you mom- i think you are over exaggerating just a tad. but still, what you should do is, next time you feel her pressuring you, tell her. i know, easier said than done, but just be like "oh my gosh, mom, stop that. it makes me really nervouse (or enter other emotion here) when you do that. you make me feel like i have to be so perfect. well, i can't mom. i know you want whats best for me, but no one can possibly be perfect. im sorry, but if you could just relax a little, that would be great." because honestly, i think that she will help you more if she lossens up a bit.



3. u need to tell her you r bored w/ homeschooling- just tell her that. tell her your getting kinda bored with the agenda ever day. maybe you could try doing some more fun activities. for science look up some experiments on the internet that would be easy to do and are relivent to what you are currently learning. i really can't think of any thing for other subjects, but im sure you'd be able to come up with something. you could go to the zoo (sounds kinda childish, but it is WAYYY better than sitting at home doing work sheets and stuff), or you could go to different historical places (for example if you are learing about the american revolution, you could go to john jay's house), if its nice out, take class outside for the day. mix it up a bit. isn't that kinda the point of home schooling. to A. get a better edgucation, but also B. use different methods of teaching, including field trips and just different fun activities.



4. she thinks public school isn't safe- well that really depends on the area you live in, but that can be very true, or totally incorrect. some schools really are not the best learning enviorment for kids. i do side with her only on the fact that my school has about 50 bomb treats a year, and my school is in a very nice, small town. i don't even wanna know what happens at other schools.



5. your sitting for 5-6 hours straght- break up your day a bit more. do 2 or 3 classes, than have a break, than back to your classes. if your mom doesn't go for this, make her a deal. instead of just having a break to do nothing, read a book, or something else fun and educational. if you can't do any breaks, at least make an excuse to go to the bathroom ever 3 classes or so. that way you atleast get up and walk about 10 feet. oh, and than back. vacation of a lifetime, im tellin ya.



6. i just highly sugest, that what ever you do, what ever you want from your mom, don't yell at her. tell her as maturely and politely as possible about whatever the issue is. i also remcomend staying home schooled. you don't sound like your all that young, so you must only have a few years left of schooling ahead of you. and being home schooled, you will defenetly get a better education, and its just a better expierience in general. most ppl say "oh if you're home schooled you don't get the social interaction that you need". well nobody needs to be just walking down the hall, minding their own busness and suddenly some guy they don't know walks up to them and pulls up their shirt and takes a digital picture of it, and send it to everyone in their contacts, and than suddenly everyone is calling you a slut bc everyone thinks you took the pic yourself to get guys! so yeah. public school sucks too. so no matter how you put it, education only leads to crap, crap, and more crap. untill the very end, when you get the job of your dreams, and your just like =D OMG!



so yeah. good luck.

Answer 2

Austin, you are 14. Why does your mom still have to watch you that closely? Can't she trust you to do some work on your own?



Ask her if she will please do an experiment for one week. Have her give you a reading or writing assignment with a time that it is due the next day. The rule is this: as long as you finish it on your own in 24 hours, you can get up, walk around, flop on the floor, go to your room, read it hanging upside down in a tree for that matter, just that she give you your choice of space without her eagle eye constantly watching. Prove to her that you CAN work independently.



Also ask politely for more social opportunities. Is there a club or ball team that you might like to join? Boy Scouts? Drum lessons? How about a homeschool support group—the good thing about that is your mom could still feel safe about you meeting kids there because she can meet their parents at the same time. Ask her what she thinks you ought to do to meet friends. If all else fails, ask her if you can volunteer at the nursing home! See how she reacts to that! That should be safe because at 14, I'm pretty sure you can run faster than they can. I guarantee you those old guys won't be boring; crazy maybe, but not boring!



Your mom needs to lighten up a little and give you a bit more space, but first you will have to earn her trust.

Answer 3

As a mom, let me give you some advice on how a mom wants to be approached.

Above all, you must be respectful. Don't be fake. She does deserve it, because even if you don't like it, she is making a huge sacrifice to homeschool you, and she is doing it for your good. Realize that when school time is tough for you, it's hard on her too.



Be responsible. Finish the work she gives you -- whatever it is, school, house or yard.



Don't complain to her (as in whining. Moms hate that.).

Once you have started with the basics, you are ready to begin addressing your problem. It won't get solved in one day, so be patient. Explain in a rational, mature tone that you would like to take a break between subjects.



Here is a win-win compromise: During your break to prevent the deformity you mentioned (haha), do some of your household chores. At the end of the day you'll have more free time, your mom will be happy, school work and chores will be done.



Ask if you can read in the living room. Change of scenery and comfy couch for you, but Mom might think you won't put your books away, or that you'll be distracted. Tell her, to be allowed this, you will put your book away and return to the desk or table to do your writing. We moms love to see kids clean up after themselves and take initiative.



Listen, your mom watches everything you do because she wants you to succeed. Yeah, I know she can ride your case sometimes and get on your nerves, but please consider her motives.



If your school work takes you 5-6 hours and you're bored, you should think about working a little harder. It might be too easy. Just get it over with, and you'll have more time for stuff you want to learn or study. Perhaps over the summer, if you end this spring on a good note, you could look into another curriculum or some electives that interest you, alleviating boredom and still pleasing your parents.



Ultimately, your role is to obey your parents. As you get older and demonstrate maturity, you will EARN the privilege of making more choices for yourself.



key words -- respect, responsibility, maturity

Answer 4

Look up a public school near where you live and research the place. Tell your mom some public schools are safe. Public school really prepares you for life. Your probably going to have A LOT of trouble making friends. It's easier when your in Public School. You know how to handle more situations. I'm really surprise how you survived without friends. They help you up when your down

Answer 5

I would say your unhappiness doesn’t lie with homeschooling per se so much as it lies with an over-controlling mother.



Not that your mother doesn’t mean well. I can only presume she does. It’s just that at your age (my gut instinct tells me that you’re in your teens), it is critical for your development, regardless of your schooling environment, that you experience some degree of independence.



From what you describe, you are far from experiencing the sort of independence that fosters true intellectual and emotional growth, given your mother’s (however well-meaning) intense control over you.



For the sake of perspective, there are many kids your age whose mothers are so preoccupied with their *own* lives that they don’t give a flying fig what their kid does or doesn’t do. While that’s not the case with *you,* such neglect is just as injurious to a kid as having an overly controlling parent. Neither situation is any walk in the park, and both end up causing harm to the kid.



As far as talking to your mother about your concerns (and I commend you for looking for ways to do so that don’t involve “yelling”), I would suggest the following:



(1) Sincerely thank her for caring about your education. Assure her that you sincerely care about it as well. Nevertheless, point out to her that even people who *work* have at least two days off per week. Further, point out to her, in a calm and earnest fashion, that you find you retain material better when you have a free day or two for it all to “sink in.”



(2) Explain to her that because you care deeply about your education and your personal development, you are concerned about the fact that you are “bored” with your curriculum. Learning and “true” education is supposed to be *stimulating,* not “boring.” If she insists that education is supposed to be “a cross to bear,” or some such thing, calmly explain that you disagree. Remind her, in quiet tones, that every child comes into this world so eager to learn and grow that parents can hardly keep up with them (to which anyone who has observed the parent of a toddler can readily attest). Therefore, a parent can fully trust that his/her older child is wanting to learn just as eagerly, but no longer needs the sort of intense vigilance a toddler requires.



(3) If she still doesn’t hear you, calmly explain that she is giving you no choice but to attend public school. (With proof of residence, you can enroll yourself there, as long as you are under the age of 16). Public school has numerous disadvantages, of course, but at least it will get you out from under the oppressive and damaging atmosphere created by an over-controlling, if also nonetheless well-meaning, mother.



My thoughts are certainly with you, and I wish you the very best.

Answer 6

I've been attending public school all my life. I've been riding the bus since I started and eating off of the free lunch cart. I've always been short and people have always looked down on me for it (no pun intended). I've been bullied, beat up, and rejected. Teachers have turned against me, insulted me in front of the whole school, and harassed me daily. I've been stabbed in the back, walked on, and didn't look forward to a single class. I'm not telling you to stick with home school. In fact, I definitely think you should be attending public school. There's the classic excuse that it's a character builder, but I've got great friends. Friends that will back me up for anything, help me out, and unlike most people, choose me over anybody else to hang out with. Without public school, I would never have gotten an opportunity to make friends like that. Let her read this, bring it up, yell at her, whatever. Just make sure she lets you.

Answer 7

uggh i have the same problem i have no friends and im depressed to the point of being suicidal from home schooling so i just walked up to my mom and im like "mom when the next school year starts im going to public school i cant take this anymore" and she took it quite well now i just have to convince my dad to let me go and i might not be the weird kid that watches kids get home from school anymore

Answer 8

You could start by printing out you queestion. Give it to her to read adn walk away.



Later after she has had time to read ask ehre to talk about. Ask her to consider parchocial school or even one of the FREE on-line high scholls that are run by most states. That way the supervisors falls ona professional teacher and not your mom.



Let her know that this is starting to hurt the way you fell toward her.



Finally, you can just refuse to work. Sit there and humm. If she hits you call Childen;s service of Dept of Family Serices and report it as abuse.

Answer 9

Chickadee34 is right. Your problem has nothing to do with homeschooling.



Maybe you can talk to a family counselor or something. Next time you visit your doctor, tell him about your problem. Say that your really stressed out about it and you would like to talk to sombody, and he/she can hook you up with some help.

Answer 10

God help you...



I really hope you don't turn out to be as ****** up as me because of homeschooling...

Answer 11

your damn right its depressing i used to go to public school but my parents took me out after the seventh grade im like what kinda bullshit is that they wouldnt even let me finish middle school no eight grade prom nothing now im homeschooled and I hate it

my mom isnt all in my face like yours but I miss having friends I didnt even have that many but they were there for me I could talk to them and now its to the point were Im talking to myself and its freaking me out I would do anything to get away

IT DOESNT MATTER WAT YOU DO THEY WONT LISTEN THEIR RIGHT AND YOUR WRONG SO JUST GIVE IT UP

Answer 12

DUDE YOUR MOM NEEDS TO PUMP HER BRAKES. THATS A BIT EXTREME EVEN FOR HOME SCHOOL. HONESTLY YOU SHOULD SIT DOWN AND TALK TO HER AND SEE IF YOU CAN WORKOUT WALKING EXERCISES OR SOMETHING AS FAR AS FRIENDS. GET INVOLVED IN SPORTS. GOTO THE PARK, LET YOUR MOM KNO HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HOME SCHOOL. NOT ALL SCHOOLS ARE DANGEROUS AND YOU WONT ALWAYS KNO WHATS BEST FOR YOUR KID, SO DONT SHELTER THEM FOREVER, BECAUSE WHEN ITS TIME TO LEAVE AND MATURE YOU ARE LOST OUT OF YOUR GODDAMN MIND. JUST EXPLAIN IT TO HER LIKE THIS, SHE IS ONLY TRYING TO PROTECT YOU, BUT THERES A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PROTECTIVE AND OVER PROTECTIVE.

Answer 13

punch your parents in the face and get into a public school kid.